Since Marleigh was born on our one year wedding anniversary and Huck was born 4 days before my birthday, Luke and I decided last year that instead of celebrating our anniversary and our birthdays separately, we would choose a weekend (or week) each year to celebrate everything all at once. We call it our “Annibirthary” celebration (clever, right?). Last year, our Annibirthary gift to each other was moving into our new home and getting everything we needed to make it our own.
This year, we tossed around the idea of renting a hotel room somewhere and getting out of town, but we ultimately decided to keep it low-key and have a “Staycation” instead. My parents offered to watch the kids for us for two consecutive nights so that Luke and I could spend some much-needed quality time together. (Side note: we haven’t had two nights kid-free together since my birthday getaway more than two years ago.)
To keep the weekend from getting away from me, I’ve been making a list of things that I want to get accomplished from Friday night to Sunday morning. I function best with a checklist, so I wrote everything down in my planner and the list took up an entire page.
Along with 15+ things that I want/need to get done, there are a few things that I don’t want to forget to do for the two days that Luke and I have together.
Have adult conversations without being interrupted. If you live with a toddler, you know just as well as I do that talking about important topics is usually reserved for after bedtime, and sometimes put aside completely. Having 48 hours to actually be able to communicate like we used to before we became “mommy and daddy” will be such a welcomed treat.
Take advantage of “Me time.” While spending time with Luke will be wonderful, I think we’re both really needing some time by ourselves as well. He does his best detoxing in the garage, and lately I have been really enjoying tuning everything else out at my sewing machine. This is convenient, especially because we’re prepping for our first ever craft show with Hammers & Hair Bows next weekend and have a lot of product to finish up beforehand!
Watch a movie in the middle of the day. Our Netflix doesn’t see anything but Daniel Tiger, Little Einsteins, and “Peep and Quack” between the hours of 6 AM and 8 PM on a regular day. It will be nice to unwind on the couch with a movie or anything that isn’t animated for a couple of hours in the middle of the afternoon!
Go on a date. When we were in our marriage course before our wedding, our “instructors” taught us the importance of dating even after you get married. What they didn’t really teach us was how crazy chaotic life can get after you start a family together. While I wouldn’t trade our life for anything in the world, a nice night out without having to worry about packing enough crayons and toys to keep the kids busy and enjoying our meal for more than 5 minutes flat will be good for us.
Enjoy the silence. …And try to fight every urge we have to drive to my parents’ house to get the kids early like we usually do. No matter how much we want and need our time together, we always end up missing them terribly after the first 12 hours! I’ll probably have to turn one of their sound machines on while we fall asleep because the silence in our house without them is almost deafening!
What do you do to enjoy time with your significant other? Are there any unique date ideas you can recommend? I’m so excited to actually have an entire weekend to be a grownup!